The good and bad of the “Spoon Theory”

The “Spoon Theory” was written by Christine Miserandino in 2003 and can be located here if you haven’t read it yet.  The Spoon Theory

I can remember the first time I read The Spoon Theory.  I cried.  Finally someone understood what it’s like to live day to day with the fatigue and pain of lupus.  To this day, I still give “The Spoon Theory” link to people that are newly diagnosed with not only lupus but any chronic illness.  I give it to people that really want to know about lupus.  I think it’s a great way to help people understand what someone is going through when living with lupus.spoons

 

But as good as the “Theory” is, I think it’s just as bad.  It’s great for helping other people understand, but it’s terrible when people with chronic illness try to live by it.  I see so many people that are confining themselves to just 12 spoons, or whatever allotment they give themselves.  Everything they do, they limit themselves.  The problem with this is that, no one really knows how much energy they have in them at any given moment.  You can’t really measure that.  Yes, you feel tired all the time.  Yes, if you over extend right now you’ll have to pay later.  Yes, the more you extend the worse you feel.  (I call that the “Use it and Bruise it” plan)  But at the same time, if you don’t extend a little bit, you’re not really living!!

Too many people are now just saying, It cost me this many spoon to do such and such so therefore I can’t do this and that.  This is so wrong in so many ways!  First of all, it’s making you dwell on the negative.  Why are you dwelling on spoons and your disability?!  By living your life by the “spoon theory” you’re doing yourself a disservice.  You’re putting too many limits on yourself if you do!  The “spoon theory” was meant to get a point across.  Not for people to live by it.

I think instead of counting your spoons, you should count your blessings.  Focus on the things you can do and can accomplish during the day.  Even if it’s just getting out of bed, or breathing in and out all day long.  That’s huge!  Do what you can do during the day and rest as much and as thoroughly as possible when you can.  Don’t think about how many spoons it’s going to cost you.  Think instead about what you can do.  Forget the spoons!  Push yourself and maybe you’ll be surprised.  At the very least, you’re not going to be focusing on the negative things.

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Is it Lupus?

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I used to watch the TV series “House” because he mentioned Lupus all the time.  His general theme was “It’s never Lupus” became a famous saying.  Which was GREAT because at least Lupus was being mentioned and people were becoming more aware of it.  So I kept watching that show.  On the last couple of seasons of that show, they tried very hard never to say Lupus for some reason.  They started calling it “SLE”  (Systemic Lupus Erythematosus) or “some unknown autoimmune problem”.  Anything but Lupus.  So I kind of quit watching the show after that, and then it ended.  They should have kept saying Lupus in my opinion.  It was interesting!

So many people to this day are seeking answers to this mysterious disease.  I often find myself answering questions about getting a lupus diagnosis or talking to people that are newly diagnosed.  So I thought this was a good place to start the LFL blog.

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Getting a diagnosis is not easy.  I have yet to hear of a person that wasn’t feeling well one day, walked into their Dr.’s office and came out that day with a Lupus diagnosis.  It takes a long time.  And in the mean time one or  more Dr.’s are likely to insinuate or blatantly tell you that you are a hypochondriac.  Years can go by before getting a Lupus diagnosis.  It’s not uncommon!

 

My advice to people that suspect they have Lupus but are having a hard time getting diagnosed is this:

Make sure you are seeing a Rheumatologist.    A Rheumatologist is not a doctor for old people with arthritis.  A Rheumatologist, whom we like to call a Rheumy, is a doctor that deals with immune problems.  If you suspect you have an immune problem, you need to see a Rheumy in order to get an accurate diagnosis.  You wouldn’t ask your baker about a problem with your car would you?  NO!  Go to a mechanic!  And hopefully you can find a GOOD mechanic.  Not all mechanics are equal.  And neither are Rheumy’s.  Find a good one!

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Some of the symptoms of Lupus are:

  • Fatigue and fever
  • Joint pain, stiffness and swelling
  • Butterfly-shaped rash on the face that covers the cheeks and bridge of the nose
  • Skin lesions that appear or worsen with sun exposure
  • Fingers and toes that turn white or blue when exposed to cold or during stressful periods (Raynaud’s phenomenon)
  • Shortness of breath
  • Chest pain
  • Dry eyes
  • Headaches, confusion, memory loss

In order to get a diagnosis, you must have several of these symptoms, but not all.  You must have positive Lupus lab work done, but not all the time.  See how tricky this is getting?  A doctor might look at your past medical history and maybe that of other people in your family.  The doctor may take biopsies of rashes or do other work ups.  Sometimes a person will have blood drawn and get a negative and other times a positive.  It’s all very complicated.  As for the lab work, I always recommend to people to have the blood work drawn when you are feeling at your worst.  Invariably a persons doctor appointment will fall on a day when they are feeling better.  This always happens!  I don’t know why.  You try to explain to the doctor that you WERE feeling bad and you feel like an idiot.  If he asks for blood to be drawn, ask him to put in an order for your blood work but let it stand until you are feeling at your worst before you go in to get the blood drawn.  Sometimes this might take 2 or more weeks.  But wait!  You’re labs will be more accurate if you wait until some immune responses are actually happening when you get your labs done.  THEN go in to the doctor and go over the labs at a later time.  Most likely you’ll feel less of an idiot if the labs show you at your worst and the doctor will be able to tell more from that as well.

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Blood and urine tests may include:

  • Complete blood count. This test measures the number of red blood cells, white blood cells and platelets as well as the amount of hemoglobin, a protein in red blood cells. Results may indicate you have anemia, which commonly occurs in lupus. A low white blood cell or platelet count may occur in lupus as well.
  • Erythrocyte sedimentation rate. This blood test determines the rate at which red blood cells settle to the bottom of a tube in an hour. A faster than normal rate may indicate a systemic disease, such as lupus. The sedimentation rate isn’t specific for any one disease. It may be elevated if you have lupus, another inflammatory condition, cancer or an infection.
  • Kidney and liver assessment. Blood tests can assess how well your kidneys and liver are functioning. Lupus can affect these organs.
  • Urinalysis. An examination of a sample of your urine may show an increased protein level or red blood cells in the urine, which may occur if lupus has affected your kidneys.
  • Antinuclear antibody (ANA) test. A positive test for the presence of these antibodies — produced by your immune system — indicates a stimulated immune system. While most people with lupus have a positive ANA test, most people with a positive ANA do not have lupus. If you test positive for ANA, your doctor may advise more-specific antibody testing.

If you are seeing a Rheumy he’ll know what to order, but it’s a good thing to become familiar with these labs.  When you are getting them drawn, I always talk to the technician and ask them what labs they are drawing and kind of double check that these are being done.  If Lupus is a concern, make sure that the urinalysis is not forgotten.  That has to happen too!  

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Another thing I really recommend to do is keep as much of your medical chart at home for your own personal reference as possible.  Ask for copies of your lab work especially!  Your medical records are yours.  So get them.  If you get them as you go along you can most likely get them for free too.  If you go in and want all your records from the past, they most likely will charge you a fee for that.  But one lab sheet at a time is easy to do.  Keep them in a file at home where you can refer to them easily.  Keep a log of when you went to the doctor and what they said.  Doctors keep notes on you, you can do the same on them.  You can look up on the internet how to interpret your labs and become familiar with what is normal for you and what to watch for.

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Before, during and after getting a diagnosis I recommend keeping a medical diary as well.  Especially when you are sick and not feeling well.  Remember how every time you go in to see your doctor you seem to be doing better and feel stupid for being there?  Well, document your good days and bad days.  Bringing that to your doctors appointment will be very helpful as well.  This will also help remember all the questions you might want to ask your doctor!   When I was at my worst, I kept a notebook with pages in it that looked like this:

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If you want a copy of this page to make copies of and make your own notebook, just email me: valinda@leapforlupus.org and I’ll send it to you.  Also in this modern age, we have awesome things called apps.  Here are links to a couple of them that you might want to try.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.gsk.lupus

https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/symple-symptom-tracker-health/id479818115?mt=8

 

Hope this helps!